Anger is a complicated emotion. I didn’t get a degree in psychology but I have been a human for 39 years. In my experience…it’s complicated. Letting go of it is even more of a puzzle. I think that there is a very logical reason for this…anger is very logical. And because our anger towards a situation can be reasonable, at first glance, it seems irrational to let it go.
“What about justice?”
“They need to be taught a lesson.”
“They were wrong.”
“Somebody needs to know.”
These are just some of the thoughts that fuel the enmity we hold against our offenders. We shouldn’t deny these feelings and desires. Being made in the image of God, we want justice, as He does. What we must do is submit these situations to our Father in heaven, who asks us to leave judgment to Him. If we deny our hurts or need for justice we are doing something futile, like trying to hold a beach ball under the water. It can’t be done without exerting constant energy which wears us down in body and spirit. I think the only true hope for dealing with our anger is to acknowledge the wrong and then take God at His marvelous word.
He will repay. He will teach. He will correct. He knows. He can do it well. And He loves us exquisitely in the meantime.
“You prepare a table before me, in the presence of my enemies.” Psalm 23 (emphasis added)