For Those of Us Who Are Really Angry


Ok. So someone hurts your feelings. Or steals your parking spot. Maybe they are late to your event or didn’t RSVP. You’re angry.

Or…someone molested you, killed a relative, stole your creative work, broke their marriage vows, abandoned you. You’re REALLY angry.

You just can’t lay hurts like that down and call everything happy. You may want to. You may try. But it never magically goes away.  I’m writing this post because letting go of anger is more than just trusting God to be just. It’s about looking at something that actually happened. That something that happened is as real and as horrible as what happened to you. That something can save those of us who are REALLY angry. In fact it saves us TWICE.

When we have been hurt, deeply hurt, we cry. Elementary. The tears heal and they let others know we suffer. Something else is born in us, too, though you might not believe it. A cry for justice. You can deny it but it’s true. It’s actually not a bad thing in itself. It shows that what was lost has intrinsic value. That cry is a kind of anger. Here’s the clincher. Your need for justice has been satisfied. You didn’t even have to fill out a report, call a lawyer, or attend a court date. No jury deliberations necessary. God knew every wrong that would happen to you and kept a record. And He exacted justice. About two thousand years ago.

You can have a front row seat to that event. In fact, you probably should take one. If you have a deep hurt it’s the next thing you should do after reading this post. Go somewhere by yourself and take that hurt to an ugly hill with three crosses on it. On one cross is an innocent man. He’s been nailed there and left to die. His name is Jesus. You can imagine a crucifixion. Stay long enough until you realize that God exacted justice for your hurt on Him. I don’t know how long you will need to see Jesus writhing there before you realize that He took your perpetrator’s punishment in full. It will happen though. At that point you will have been saved from your cry for justice. Each time the anger comes back take it to the cross and you will realize it again. But it will take less time.

Be sure to do one more thing before you leave the cross. Stay there long enough to realize how many of your actions Christ suffered over. You’ve hurt others and offended God with your sin. Accept that He took that punishment for you, and let Him be Lord of your life. At that point you have been saved TWICE. Once from anger and once from your own unrighteousness.

What a Savior!

If you want to know more about this awesome God who loves you this much you can send me a reply or simply visit my church’s website at www.clovisevfree.org. We have great pastors and elders who would love to talk to you. (And some great sermons to hear, too.)

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2 thoughts on “For Those of Us Who Are Really Angry

  1. Interesting post about anger. This feeling in the most misunderstood feeling. Healing from a deep anger, caused by either being abused, robbed, or cheated, takes a long time. Taking the anger or whatever situation “to the cross” was something I took for granted. It sounds good, but what does it really mean? Forgive those who wrong me? Easier said than done. Try to forget the infraction? Impossible. “Taking it to the cross” might signify not letting specific things in life take away the joy of life’s big picture. We tend to obsess and focus on details in life that do not represent the overall reason that we are here on earth. I believe we are here to serve each other, but can be interfered by small details in life (hurt, ambitions, fortune, addictions, etc).

    • Thanks for your input. I was worried that the phrase “taking it to the cross” was a bit vague myself. I guess I could say it means taking the time to realize that Christ’s suffering on the cross was not just for my sins and yours, but for the sins of the one who has wronged us. Realizing this truth allows us to lay down our need for retribution. That is freedom indeed!

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